Thursday, September 27, 2012

Choices...

It's been a while since I've shared my heart with the blog world. And when I say heart, I mean the biggest piece of my heart... I haven't shared much aside from a "Praise Jesus" here or a "Thank God" there since June 6, 2011. I know because I went back through my blog until I found the most recent post which could be considered a "God-Post," even though this particular post was mostly about the day I found out Kaki was breech and how the series of events in my faith-walk that Spring had led me to that place. I was strong and triumphant in that post, laying it all out there knowing that God had a plan for Kaki and I and that he would carry us through what, at the time, was one of my larger fears. 

I wish I could say that the strength and resilience and even determination in that post is what carried me through since then. I wish I could say that I was steadfast and faithful. I wish I could say that it didn't take more than a year to get me to the place where I could write again about God, not because He hasn't been working in my life, because He has been ever-so-faithful and good to me, but because I have not had the words, the strength or even the discernment of which words to put to where I've been. 

As I was going through my list of posts I found at least six drafts of posts I was working on at different times throughout the year that were trying to communicate where I was with God on my journey. They had titles like "Worn Out," "Sunny Days," "I Don't Want to Miss This." I never could put it all together and I figured that meant it just wasn't time. I could have forced something but it wouldn't have been right and I am thankful that God urged me to table those posts until my words had been refined through the fire of experience and through the grace of His wisdom.

Today, I was sitting in the drive-thru line at Chick-fil-a, waiting to get Kaki-pants a Strawberry shake to heal the hurts of the four shots she got today and it hit me...Choice! It is a word I have been throwing around a lot lately. Choice. It's a heavy word if you really sit and think about it in context with your life and all of the choices you make every single day. The choices we make moment by moment. Before today I was thinking about choice in the context of our country and the political battles that always precede a Presidential Election. So many choices. And I could go and on from this point of view, but that's not what hit me in the drive-thru today... 

Choice! What hit me today is that God gives us a choice. He allows us to choose Him. He does not force us to choose him. Sure, there are times when God acts in mighty ways to win over another one to His kingdom, but He still leaves the choice. There is always a choice. Even Jesus had a choice. He did not have to do what He did. I know people think that He did, but He didn't! He even asked for another option to choose, He cried out for a new way, a new choice. But there was only one left to make. Obedience or Disobedience which ultimately meant Life or Death. Heavy, heavy choices!

But you know, I think God did that so that Jesus and He himself could identify with the choice that we would have to make every single day. Because we do. Every single day we have to choose Obedience.  It doesn't just happen. We have to choose it. And that can mean the difference between life and death.

Right after Kaki was born, I started waking up each morning with a buffet of choices before me. I had so many things to choose from. Used to, I'd wake up and I'd choose God. But one day I stopped, although it wasn't obvious to me at the time and clearly it wasn't intentional, but looking back I see it so clearly and I'd be kidding myself not to think that every choice we make is intentional! I knew the choices I was making and I knew better.

The days immediately following Kaki's birth I would stand in the mirror, crying, looking at my bruised and scarred body from the trauma of a longer than planned c-section and I would chose self-pity which at times turned to doubt and anger. When I would replay each moment in the operating room minute-by-minute and I would chose self-pity again and then doubt, anger, fear, resentment. I would remember the moment Justin had to leave the room and I would chose loneliness and loss. And every time post-partum symptoms lingered longer than I believed they were supposed to I would choose fear and anxiety. 

And that was just in the short-term.

As the months went on my spiral down into the pit of defeat and ultimately spiritual death got shorter and shorter. I was very near the bottom and I kept choosing fear, self-pity, anger at times, and every single thing under the sun aside from God. I wasn't choosing Him or His promises or His power! WHY OH WHY would I ever relinquish the choice of His power? 

I had just recently climbed out of the pit in 2010, I had released the Holy Spirit to go to work in my life in way I never knew I could and He did HUGE things. I knew I would never ever have to go back to the pit again, but I did... and it happened so fast! 

Three months! But really... it took days... moments... but it would take three months for the Holy Spirit to say ENOUGH!! ENOUGH!! ENOUGH, KATIE!! CHOOSE ME!!

I will never forget it as long as I live. It was maybe the closest I will ever come to hearing God's audible voice on this earth. Justin, the kids and I were driving home from visiting Thomas the Train with my parents. At lunch I had had an anxiety attack over the chicken. Yes, you read that right. Fried chicken to be exact. I was afraid it wasn't cooked well-enough! It's FREAKING FRIED!! You see I was letting the "crazy" control my life. The fear of death by fried chicken was overwhelming to the point I could not even eat. I was in tears at the table with my whole family watching. I was literally crying over a plate of fried chicken, paralyzed by fear. I know this might sound silly, but this is how very deep I had gotten. 

And do you want to know what started my obsession with food safety? The cantaloupe recall of 2011... it was all over the news, people we dying, the news was telling us the proper ways in which to wash our produce. The irony of the whole cantaloupe debacle was that I don't even eat it... I'm allergic! But listeria was looming on my front doorstep and I was not going to open that door. 

But I did... over. and over. and over. AGAIN! 

On the way home from lunch that day, we were driving through the gorgeous Hill Country's winding roads, when out of nowhere Justin spoke a word from the Lord. I had been sitting in the passenger seat upset, choosing self-doubt, self-pity, anger, even embarrassment as I found myself thinking what am I going to do?!?! How am I going to continue on in a world like this. I sure hoped counseling would help!

Counseling!

Yep, you read that right. I went to a counselor. The previous week I saw a Christian Counselor. I met with her for two hours and talked to her about what was going on. I told her I was dwelling in the pit of fear, anxiety and self-pity and please oh please could she help me out of it.

So just as I was thinking about how much I had hoped that counseling would change my life Justin spoke and I don't remember verbatim what He offered, but it added up to this... He said, "Katie, You know what you have to do to beat this. You aren't choosing Jesus. You have to start choosing Him again."

And in a moment of complete and utter release like a HUGE WEIGHT had been lifted off of my shoulders I said, "You are right! You are absolutely right!"

Jesus had said, "ENOUGH!!!!"

Justin went on to encourage me to spend hours like I used to reading my Bible, studying, praying. He asked me if I even knew where my scripture spiral was? Had I even thought to crack it open? Well, sure... I had been storming the gates of Heaven for my cousin Amanda and her little boy Ryan. In fact, I even made her a copy of my scripture spiral because I knew of its power! God's word was living and active and it alone could carry them through!

But not me... 

I hadn't even realized what that meant...I wasn't choosing Jesus! 

In fact, my mom recalls a conversation when I told her I wanted to go to counseling where I told her in similar words, "Well, I guess I just don't have the time or energy to beat Satan this time. I guess I should go to counseling!"

Can you imagine? Just letting him have it? All of my joy? My blessings? My life? 

I am overwhelmed by tears as I write that last line! Praise you Jesus for not allowing that to be so! Praise you!

So that afternoon after we got home Justin said, I want you to go to Mardel's and I want you to buy some new books and I want you to spend time each day choosing Jesus. Such wisdom and kind words. I am so thankful to his sensitivity to the Holy Spirit on that day and the days following that allowed him to speak such words of truth to me in the most tender way possible.

So nearly a year ago, to the day, I starting waking up every day and choosing Jesus! And I canceled my second appointment with my counselor and humbled myself before the throne of the great Counselor! (This is not to say that counseling does not have a place. I think it is very helpful for lots of people, but it was not something I wanted to continue.)

And I wish I could tell you it was an easy transition but it wasn't. It was one of the hardest pits I have yet to climb out of and I even hesitate to say that I am fully out, but if the words of this blog can attest to anything it's that I am very near the top and maybe even climbing a bit of a mountain... oh, how I pray that I am!

Choice! We have to choose Jesus every day. We have to choose to remember His power when we are weak. We have to choose to remember His perfection when we are imperfect. We have to chose to remember His impeccable timing when we are impatient. We have to chose joy over fear. We chose blessing over self-pity. We have to choose life over death.

By choosing Jesus every day for the last year, earnestly and honestly. Working like a dog not to slip even a step back into the pit and leaning on His grace and mercy when I did, has restored me in ways that I never thought possible. It has showed me blessings that I kept missing. It has opened my eyes to the MAJESTY of our God. For He is powerful! 

There have been several truths that have helped lift me ever-so-carefully out of the pit but two that I rely on every day are these:

1.  Remember what the Lord has done for you! For His people!
2.  Today, it's just today that I have to worry about because tomorrow will worry about itself.

These may seem like pretty elementary truths, but when I find myself feeling anxious or powerless I remember the majesty, power, authority and greatness of my God. I remember what He has done and what He can do... which is anything... the battle has been WON... amen??!!! What and who am I to fear??!!

And living for today... and only today is a daily practice. I have wasted plenty of moments and even days/weeks living in the day when... I get diagnosed with cancer. I lose a loved one. I die from fried chicken! 

And if I live in those days then I might as well just tell the "pit-bosses" to cover me with dirt because in the pit is where I'm staying! 

But no! I can't miss all of this! 

The blessings, the adventure, the race... the grace, love, mercy and strength of our God!

It's enough to choose Jesus once, that's all He asks, but what He wants is for us to CHOOSE HIM EVERY DAY! 

Jesus, I choose you! Today! 

And you know what it is SUPER COOL about choosing Jesus every day? It's that He begins to restore our hearts, making room for something special that only He can put in our hearts to do. What a blessing that He has something so special for me... and for you and for all who choose Him. How great is a God that gives His immeasurably more for our benefit! I don't want to miss it! Oh Lord, reveal whatever it is that you have put in my heart for me to do... today! 


A year later, in the Chick-fil-A drive thru all of this FINALLY came spilling out of me... much like the strawberry milkshake that later spilled all over my car! :-) And I am oh so grateful! Thank you for the friends and family members who have walked alongside me this past year, most especially in those LONG months of bad choices. Thank you for loving me in spite of my weakness and thank you for praying that God's power would be made perfect in me. Those prayers were answered by His grace and mercy... thank you! 

For those of you who might read this and find yourself in a pit, I would encourage you to choose Jesus, today. If you are comfortable and feel so inspired to share your heart with me, I would consider it a great honor to pray alongside you and give you my "choosing Jesus tips" to help you hike your way back up! You can do it!! We can do it!


Love you all!!


Sunday, September 23, 2012

The Fun in the Pines Was Not Lost On Us!

(I did not proof-read this post... please don't judge! thank you!)

Evans Family vaca time!! Whoo-ooo, Whoo-ooo, Whoo-ooo... 

Earlier today we returned back to the Rock from the deep piney woods of Central Texas. In fact, it is not far from the deep part of the piney woods that made big news last year about this time when the Bastrop State Park nearly burned to the ground. Thankfully, the beautiful and oh.so.fun. Lost Pines Resort was spared! Had it not been then our family might have well just missed out on one of the most fun weekends yet... truly, the fun was not lost on us, or in the piney woods of Bastrop, TX!

It all started in the wee hours of Thursday morning when Justin rushed off toe the Doggie Hotel to drop of M&M and headed back home with breakfast and coffee in hand... does vacation start any better than that? Get rid of your dogs... check! Breakfast that you don't prepare...check! And coffee, served by a super cute barista of a hubby...check! Triple check!

We loaded up the car and headed out not long after we scarfed our breakfasts, respectively. In true Cox family (aka high maintenance) style we were packed to the roof... but not on the roof, thankfully! And we didn't forget the stinkers...always, a good thing! Kid #1...check! Kid #2...check!


In just a few short minutes... really just short of an hour... we were there! But compared to our more recent trips to Houston and to Corpus, Bastrop seemed like going to the grocery store and back! So in just under an hour we were there... and we were ready to par-tay!!!

Kk and Albi were already there and waiting, having spent the previous night out there themselves... and they had it all scoped out. They were ready to get those kiddos in their suits and hit the pool! WAY... back in 2009, Memorial Day, KK and Albi took Justin, Caden and I to Lost Pines... Caden was only 5 months old! We had great time that weekend so we knew we were in for an extra special treat this time around... with the cool-ish fall weather and the low crowds... we were hoping for perfection... and we very near got it...

The first day proved to be just what we had hoped at the pool...

Kaki thought it was mighty fine...


And my dudes were always on the prowl... food, balls, drinks... FUN!


And me... YES... me! I was there!


And Kk and Albi were there too, but let's just say that those particular photos weren't quite blog-worthy, amen? I might not have gotten to go on another family fun trip if I posted them! But don't worry... they'll pop up again later! I made a more concerted effort this vacation to snap some pics... granted they were all taken with my phone, but it's progress!

After lots of fun in the sun we headed back up to our rooms for naps... but Chade got to hang out with the big kids and did a little iPad watching... 


And Daddy just looked cute... while catching up on some stuff...


During naps, Uncle Josh and Aunt Emily got into town from Nac! Whaaaa-hoooo! We were so excited they were there and we charted out our plan...

Dinner...

Games...

Starting with Washers and Horseshoes...


But Kaki decided that those rusty, heavy horseshoes and the unfinished sheen of the washers weren't really her bag... so she and KK headed off to explore!


Meanwhile back at the washer pit... Uncle Josh was showing us all how it is done...
It's as easy as...

1...

2... 3...

You try Caden...


Albi decided that his girls needed some accompaniment...





After all, it can be hard on a girl to take all of those BIIIIIIGGGGG steps!


Next up... shuffle board... 

I didn't get many pics of this action because I was chasing around the wild child...


Also known as the purse snatcher...


She is one BUSY girl... so shuffle board in the bar didn't last long for the Kaki-pants! So I took her and the Chade back to the room for bath and bedtime!

Snooze... nothing like sleep on vacation...

Next morning morning snuggles...


Kaki girl was worn out and slept in a bit, but once she was up and the boys were off to play golf, she was ready and raring to go! GIRL DAY!!


Even her sweet baby doll Penelope made it to breakfast with us that morning... sweet Nell!


And Aunt Emily and Kaki (the dog lovers of our crew) LOVED hanging out with the hotel dog, Haus... he was HUGE, and fluffy and furry and really so very cute! Especially since I wasn't the one have the schlep up his hair every day! :)


After breakfast and a little exploring KK and Aunt Emily had their adventurous hearts set on touring the property via bike... and so Kaki and I went over to snap a few pics and wish them farewell on their journey! 


Aunt Emily was a natural... turns out it really is just like riding a bike...


Kaki was doing her Mckayla Maroney face...#notimpressed Aunt Emily!


But I was!! Aunt Emily and KK were pros... look at them...


After a bike ride... a little room cleaning... and 9 holes of golf for the Chade... we hit the pool! First, Aunt Emily and Caden had to stop-off and visit the horse... and take the obligatory "horse pic!"


Later on in the afternoon the boys joined us for a little family SLIDE fun!! 

OH BOY!!

Are y'all ready for the greatest pictures ever???!! Everyone was a great sport and indulged us in our picture taking, slide downing, pool splashing FUN! Everyone took a turn...

Drum roll...

Please...

Chade and Daddy...


Caden tried earlier by himself... not.a.fan! A little too much action for the little guy... his nose enema was not so fun!

Next up... Aunt Emily, who manages to look like she dancing as she glides into the water!


Uncle Josh... Joe Cool... laying back and taking life as it comes... 


Lou-Lou... she went twice and loved it! The thrill seeker that she is! :)


Uncle Josh is getting cute... belly slide...

And his brother in law is going to keep him humble!! SMACK!!


And me... sportin' the token OH THIS IS SO FUN Mommy face! 


Hunky hubs' turn to get cute...


Sweet Kk! The first time she went to screamed the whole way down... it was hilarious! Albi said he could hear her from across the pool! She loves a good thrill!


And Albi... the I don't like carousels or see-saws or heights... he did it... and loved it! I think?! :)


We had the slide to ourselves and just kept going and going and going! In this case, the kiddie fun was definitely being enjoyed WAY more by the adults! We loved it!

If we weren't racing down the slide or sitting pool side sipping yummy drinks and eating scrumptious food, we were taking it easy on the lazy river! It was amazing! Justin and I decided that instead of pools people should build lazy rivers in their backyards... I mean think about it... around the playscape, between the trees, watch out for the grill, and hop out at the back door... sounds good to me! :)

This girl found vacation life pretty great...



 She insisted on only drinking her drinks through a straw...pool diva in the making! yikes!

On Friday night we celebrated Aunt Emily's 21st birthday! :) Okay so maybe she's 21 and come change... but nonetheless it was her celebration and we were excited to be a part of it! KK and Albi treated us to a yummy dinner... one of the best we'd had! And such fun for all of us!

A little round the table action...

The three stooges...


Okay, so they may be too cute for stooges, but these three did have a fun time this weekend! Aunt Emily got WAY more of an education about all things Baylor Band than she ever wanted to! But she pretended to love it and that is what makes Caden tick!! :)

A girl and her Daddy...

And KK's phone... which is never too far out of reach!


A boy and his Mommy! :)


And the two who started it all...

Well done you two... well done!


No birthday celebration is complete without a candle...


And a perfectly-timed action shot of the blow!


Group shot... minus our photog, Justin... fun times!!


After a yummy dinner, fantastic S'more making in the outdoor firepit and a fun night of Baylor Bears watching and Aunt Emily celebrating... we woke up the next morning ready for a hike around the grounds! And I use hike loosely... :-)

But we looked pretty official...right?!


The ants go marching two-by-two hurrah, hurrah... anyone?


After our morning walk/hike we were just sweaty enough to head to the pool for our last day of fun in the sun...

And boy did we ever have fun...

And got just enough sun to give us each the glow we would need for family pictures later that evening!

YES! You read that right... professional family pictures! I know, first a blog with actual pictures from an Evans family vaca and then professional pictures to boot! Call us butter...

More on the prof pics later... I'm sure I'll be sharing some when we get them! I'll give you some hints... navy, mustard and a boy who fell in love with his photographer!

After pictures we headed to chow down on some yummy bar food... nachos, wings and the like...

And then our little fam hit up the ice cream shop for our night cap, while the others did the same thing on the other side of the hotel with the real stuff! :)

Nothing says Happy Vaca like a cup of hand-dipped Blue Bell!





After our night cap we transitioned to bed like we did in between all of our vaca events... with the long jaunt down the hallway... Caden running literal circles around Kaki and us saying, "Slow down Caden... Come on, Kaki! Don't tackle Kaki, Caden. Come on, Kaki! Come ON!"


Last night Caden and I decided to have a little slumber party and sleep in the same bed... and I think Daddy was pretty excited about that himself... bed to himself! And about half-way into the night I was re-thinking my decision... but regardless of feet in the back I love snuggling with this little man more than anything! Someday Kaki will have to join us and then I'll be surrounded by feet and be none the happier! :)


Today we woke up and had one last breakfast before we all departed to our separate corners of Texas... East, Central, South...

Kaki was thankful we were going by car and by...


horse... she was born for such a time as this... :-)

One more picture to sum up our weekend in Bastrop...

Caden and his buddy Haus... the big, friendly, fluffy dog of Lost Pines! 


What a treat! What a fantastic way to spend a long-weekend... family, fun, new friends, fabulous food, fruity drinks and festive celebrations! We couldn't have imagined any better than it was! Thank you Kk and Albi for hosting us this weekend! We had such fun and enjoyed spending time all together as a family! We love you two!! And you too, Aunt Emily and Uncle Josh! Always so fun to hang out with our hip, cool and silly Aunt and Uncle from the REAL Piney Woods!! :-) Love y'all!